Mentioning my fetish to my girlfriend...

(first time post but longtime lurker)

The User 'Yousuck' made a great example of most people on the internet. "At least you HAVE a girlfriend! Some of us aren't so lucky!" This shows a social inadequacy to attain what you desire for a partner. From what I've read of your writings and opinions I should hope you're not one of the social degenerates who sees things as having to work for them, rather than they working to accomplish their goals. I hope you're one who has no problem in putting forth the efforts needed to finding new methods of satisfaction which would be possible new relationships.

I've had a lot of experience with bringing my fetishes out in the open to my numerous partners in the past. Every single one of them accepted my multitude of alternative interests, and most have partaken to an extent. Now, after maturing some, My spouse and I live happily and openly and have developed ourselves to desiring the same thing which is her blowing up like a blimp. She never had the fetish or any like it, she just has an open mind and we both desire to love each other completely as we are which includes all of our quirks. The essence of LOVE is the acceptance and embracing of another's qualities and quirks.

Love is the most important thing in any relationship. Love overpowers all and is the foundation upon which all other things should be built upon. Love however, is a very biased idea. I'm sure everyone feels they truly "love" someone at a relatively early part of a relationship. I say early because you still only recently confessed a deep rooted secret about yourself, such exposure of secrets is something which should always be adressed early on, thus, your at the early stage because even she did not know you fully until this recent point.

The question now is, can you ever bring her around to caring, and possibly sharing your desires? Maybe, maybe not. A more important series of follow up question are; Can you continue on with such a relationship if that part of you isn't accepted and embraced by your partner? Can you live with the shame your desires will bring whenever you think about them, or act upon them in secret against your partner's wishes? How truly satisfying is the thought of living life with a partner who does not embrace everything about you? Is your love, at this point in time, strong enough to quell the pain of possibly losing yourself for the sake of adapting to your partner's intolerance?

I've asked myself these questions long ago and deduced that it would be unbearably unfulfilling to suffer through a relationship where I could not comfortably be my true self, or express my desires to their full potential. I shall not suffer such a grim fate as hiding in the fetish closet, no one should. Everyone deserves to be happy.

Yes, it is a monumental task in finding a person in life whom you would feel happy to share it with. Effort is the cost of happiness. You DO actually have to WORK for your satisfaction. Don't be lazy.

Only an idiot would approach a woman and immediately ask her to join hands in inflation lust. I have exposed myself usually a month or two into the relationship. The exposure would of course be the follow up to a prior month's crescendo of tactfully placed innuendo to judge your partners reactions from.

There are also many VITAL keys in developing such a successful, loving, and open relationship. The first step is observational deduction on the mental state of a potential mate. Does she have the characteristics of a person who is comfortable with outlandish habbits?

HA HA, but these are for the poor sap who has no one to call their own. These are other matters, for another time.

Look, when you talk about those things, people immediately think its something you do in your bed, something you expect your partner to follow through, ect. Of course, the first thing that comes to mind is "that cant happen in real life". First of all you have to make clear its a fantasy, and that fetishes dont necessarily mean something people act out, like S&M or stuff like that.

I think theres a prejudice in thinking that fetishes mean "fantasies people act out in bed".

She probably dismissed it because she didn't understand how important it was to you, and didn't know how to react to it anyway. I'd try talking to her about it again sometime, when you're not in bed, so she doesn't feel pressured to come to terms with it right then, or really do anything about it other than talk.

The Warlock

Well, is inflation necessary for you to be sexual aroused? I mean, for me, even if I told my GF(when I get one... fingers crossed!), I would never make her RP like that. It's a fantasy thing for me, anyways, I don't care about replicating it in real life.