Hey,
I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting this here but I just wanted to mention to people that my girlfriend and I are no longer seeing each other...
Seems like such a shame, but we've got our differences and so I hope she ends up happy doing her own thing now with whomever she ends up being together with.
Goodbye sexual inflation games and random public teasing... :(
that sucks *hug*
Yeah, that really sucks.
I've been there. Really hard to find another woman as great as that, and really hard to get excited about being with another woman after experiencing that.
It's hard enough to lose a relationship, but I think when you have a sexual fetish (and that fetish is like 98% male anyway), it just makes it so much harder when it ends after you meet a female who you feel you can not only be open with about your fetish, nevermind one who actually gets interested in it too.
That's my experience. Not to get you down. Maybe you'll meet someone else great.
Cheers for that.
I hope to patch things over, maybe in a couple of months when we've both had space to act freely... but I'm not going to hold my breath.
I might hold of the relationships for a while if it doesn't work out.
Though I seem to have a problem with staying single for long periods of time and before I know it I've ended up with somebody else... I don't want that.
There really isn't anybody like her, I think that if there's no way of being together again I'll be single for the rest of my life. I really wouldn't want anybody else.
Well, you say that now, but time is magical.
Id LOVE to not be able to be single for long periods of time. I have just the opposite.
I also hear you too. I haven't from my guy for more than 2 months (reasons why I'm still not exactly sure) and he also shared some of my fetishes along with his. I don't know if it had to do with an illness or family problem, I've unofficially called it off. Now I just have to take some time and remember in myself what makes me a good person, whether I have a partner or not, and also that others can see that and take that chance with me and respect me for who I am. But I do know the time I've spent with him where a good learning experience, not only with dealing with a significant other, but also trying to express my fetishes more orally than usual. And who knows, maybe another guy, or even girl, can at least see that quirk about me and still respect me for it. Maybe something will work out for you too :).
Oh thats too bad....I was just thinking of you the other day when I was musing on what someone said in another forum about finding a close partner or companion that shares the interests.
Yah,Ive about totally considered finding someone thats into this,an impossibility.
I had a search on ALT.com for someone into what we're into and no one has called up yet. I just cant believe there is no one on there into this stuff.
Theyve some of the real demented things,but no inflationists??
Keep the hope alive!! HAHAHA...
Good Fortune to ya.....
Kuumuzu-I hear you.
DarthClone might be right. It's perfectly logical. A great relationship ends, time heals wounds, and you move on. Usually happens.
But, I've been single for nearly 2 years now and still haven't moved on.
Not to get too much into my personal life, but sure I've had the occasional one-night-stand, but there's just been no one who compares to my last girlfriend.
But, I was with her for 5 years, so if I must look at the positive, yeah, it gives me time for myself now.
I'm sorry to hear it...I hope you feel better soon. :(
A girl I had a crush on for seven years dumped me two years ago. She had an interest in my inflation fetish and even had a nice, sexy potbelly to go with it.
Seeing as it took me seven years to get the nerve up just to get close to her, I'm not very confident that I'll ever get another girlfriend. Would be nice though, as my life is getting pretty depressing.
You have my sympathy, Kuumuzu. I hope things turn out better for you and your girlfriend.
Wow, my life is just as depressing as you guys's. Im having big romantic problems right now, also in the line of "if its not her, its nobody" :( She's just perfect.
You guys have to give up finding someone already with the fetish. Its more plausible to turn her into the fetish. It was said here long ago: if she respects you and cares for you, she'll respect and accept your preferences. As girlfriend, even if she doesnt like it, she has an obligation to at least talk about it with you. If she despises you from the beginning, when you go to her with your fetish, you've lost half the battle.
Believe it or not, Darth has a point. It wouldn't be right if someone in a relationship enforced their likes or beliefs onto you the same for us doing it to them. It would really be a good sent to find someone to accept you for who you are and your fetishes better.
As someone who's Been There(tm), let me help improve morale around here. And I apologize if this is a little long-winded or cliche, but it looks like it needs to be said.
Listen, pretty much all throughout my life in school, I was you. The guy who had a crush on a girl for a long, long time and never did anything about it for fear of embarrassment and/or rejection. The guy whose heart sank whenever she hooked up with yet another douchebag. The guy who thought that she was The One.
My first "girlfriend" (I use that term lightly, since it was in 8th grade) was cute, nice, and very likable. She was also a huge flirt, so I was at least a little flattered that someone would flirt with me. The "relationship" ended pretty quickly because I was too shy to hold hands. But for the next three years as we headed to the same high school, I still pursued her. She hopped from guy to guy, flirting all the way, but she still dropped hints that she wanted to be with me. But since it's the unwritten rule that guys have to initiate everything, I was too shy to. So each time she gave me a chance, I crumbled under the pressure and she'd hook up with someone else. It wasn't until very early in our senior year that my best friend admitted to me that he was hoping to ask her out (and had been wanting to since junior high), and I finally realized that, after five years, it was time to give it up. Someone else would come along. He took her to the homecoming dance (which I stayed home from, now happily liberated of my affection for her), and after she got home, she got on IM and said, "He was nice and all, but I wish you had taken me." Had she said those words a year earlier, I would've been hating myself for another missed opportunity. But I had no regrets, and it was an amazing feeling. I knew that someone better would come along.
Just a few months later, I was absolutely, 150,000% convinced that I had found The One. My God, she met my definition of perfect to a T: a quick wit, extremely smart, very attractive but understated appearance, and she and I shared common interests with the exact same enthusiasm. I was stricken. I went to prom with her, held her close to me for hours, and got my first kiss. Six years later, I still look back on that weekend as one of the absolute best damn times of my life. Very much a coming-of-age period for me relationship-wise. We started dating shortly thereafter; my first "real" girlfriend. I didn't think there was any way we wouldn't end up married.
After she dumped me via an AIM conversation four months later, citing the follies of a long-distance relationship (we went to different colleges two hours apart... rival schools, no less), I was completely devastated. I was physically ill all weekend. The MP3 I was listening to at the time still knots my stomach. I thought that I had lost my best chance at finding a real soulmate. The classic example of The One That Got Away. To make matters worse, she wouldn't answer phone calls and blocked my AIM and e-mail address, so I never even really got the opportunity for any resolution. I eventually did make contact with her, and after some cordial discussions it quickly devolved into me acting like a total jerkoff, and she completely dropped off the face of the earth. Changed her IM, e-mail address, everything, and left me with one final e-mail basically saying that we would never talk again. As karma would have it, all of this went down around Valentine's Day. That may have been even more painful than the initial breakup, but I was finally given resolution, whether I liked it or not. Grudgingly, I decided to move on.
And you know what? Just a couple of months later, the shy computer nerd with absolutely no dating prowess worked up the courage to ask a girl on a date (after all, what did I have to lose?). She didn't have quite as quick a wit as the last one, or maybe wasn't quite as intelligent, or wasn't as much of a computer nerd or sports fanatic. Maybe she wasn't even quite as physically attractive. But it just felt right... a feeling that wasn't even present with the last girl. Three years later, I bought her a diamond ring, and she said yes. Another year and we were married.
Without getting too cheeseball, the moral of the story is twofold:
1. Even if you think you've lost what appears to be the "perfect" girl, maybe the right one is just around the corner. Maybe you weren't emotionally ready for the right one, and that you had to go through a difficult breakup first to gain some perspective. I know that I used the whole thing as a learning experience. Get up, dust yourself off, and move on. You are only going to dig yourself a deeper hole by feeling sorry for yourself.
2. If you think you've never got a chance with anybody... have you taken a chance? What do you have to fear? The worst that could possibly happen is that she turns you down. It may not work the first time, but it'll get easier. You might even surprise yourself... I know I did. And even when I was initially turned down for a steady relationship, it didn't even seem like that big of a deal. But the simple truth is, no one will ever go out with you if you don't ask.
Maybe none of this will make sense until you experience it for yourself. Or maybe some of you are thinking that I'm full of shit. But I'm guessing that most of you are in your teens or early 20s, so you just have to trust people that have been there.
While my wife and I were on vacation this past summer, we actually ran into my ex. It was kind of a surreal thing to have the worlds of current vs. former love collide, but at the same time I felt that my dating life had come full circle. And in some ways, I even owe my marriage to my ex... if she hadn't put such a huge, steel-toed boot up my ass, I still probably would've been lamenting the breakup and may not have been in the right place at the right time to ask my future wife out to an Italian dinner and Spider-Man.
I've rambled on long enough. Hopefully this is at least a little insightful.
I think, especially with the percentage of females who are into this fetish, it would be statistically impossible to chance onto meeting a woman you were attracted to and end up discovering she actually already shared your body inflation fetish (...and weight gain fetish...and S&M fetish...).
It'd have to be a matter of either hunting down a female with that fetish online or finding someone open-minded, I'd assume.
My girlfriend wanted to do everything with me and so she got into it with me. Her own likes were vaguely similar enough to my own fetishes that she was able to really enjoy it.
Double-You were posting at the same time I was, so I didn't see your post.
I was replying to DarthClone before, not your post.
I'm actually in my early 30s.
I'm actually in my early 30s.
That's cool. Sorry if you took offense by my assumption.
And about finding another girl with similar interests... you might be pleasantly surprised. Seems to me that a lot of women are open to at least trying things, especially if it's something important to their significant other. And even if you don't find someone like that, who's to say you still can't have a long, happy life with someone?
My ex and I could have hour-long debates on baseball strategy. Those times always made me happy that I had someone like that. By contrast, my wife doesn't know the difference between a squeeze play and hitting the cutoff man. I don't love her less because she can't have those discussions with me, it's just something we can't share. Similarly, she thought she would marry someone that liked country music and dancing, and that definitely didn't happen.
Wow, I don't know what to say.
Thanks for the sympathy comments, and thanks for the helpful advice too.
I don't think our relationship will ever be what it was. We will remain friends... If she ever decides to speak to me, but I'd be happy even if we didn't... it'd give me that bigger push to move on and forget about it.
It may have only been two years, but they were the best two years of my life.
Upsetting as it is to lose such a loving and wonderful person, I feel it's better to keep the memories safe in my heart and move on to greener pastures.
She may have felt like 'the one'
I was damn sure she was, but chances are that there is always somebody that will match me better.
Maybe. ^_^
Wow, I don't know what to say.
We will remain friends... If she ever decides to speak to me, but I'd be happy even if we didn't... it'd give me that bigger push to move on and forget about it.
Don't initiate contact with her... at least not yet. Let some time pass so you can heal.
i know how you feel man i been there. back in 2003 i was engaged for the first time and thought for sure she was the one and a couple months later she broke up with me and married some guy a year later. and when you wrote **(There really isn't anybody like her, I think that if there's no way of being together again I'll be single for the rest of my life. I really wouldn't want anybody else.)** i felt the same way until may of this year when she made contact with me and told me that she got a divorce and then invited me over to her house. it was great to me cause it felt like old times and her and i talked and i started thinking how much she has matured...until 2 weeks later she told me she wasnt ready for a relationship yet and then ran off with a guy down state and i started to think that ill never date again for the rest of my life again. but im glad i didnt think that way for very long cause i meet a much better girl who is very very sweet.
I think you should do what you have to do but by what i have experienced with that and other relationships there is always that one girl thatll heal your heart and make you smile all day long and wont leave your mind. but i hope that whatever you do will work out for you bud.
stay cool and focused
Cheers boss. ^_^
we're getting on as good friends right now, I wouldn't want to ruin that.
But at the same time she's thought a lot about getting back together... I guess it could happen if things were right, but I don't want to get all excited because it could end in tears. (again).
Either way, I'm very happy being friends.
Sorry 'bout the news, but cheer up.
Listen, take it from a gay person who can't find a single guy in the first place. >__< But like my friend says, "Don't worry, they're is someone out there for you." So, don't worry to much Kuumuzu, you'll find someone again. It just takes a little time and patience. ^_^
thats good hope things go good for ya bud.
So sorry to hear about that Kuu...
If you ever get stumped for a relationship you can always come and visit me in London next time you are on your travels. ;)
And bring that weather balloon. :P
Well... maybe.
I'll see how this works out first... ^_^;
Normally I don't like to discuss my personal life, but I've had some brief "girlfriends" that all ended in unfortunate ways. I didn't really have a gf until I was high school, during my jouinor year. A girl that I shared class with just got dumped by her bf, and strangley that was right after I was hanging out with her for the first time. We had a lot of fun that day and later that night I asked her out and we "dated" for about two weeks. After all that she deceided to dump me on AIM, stating that she "didn't want a bf". Ironically as I knew this was coming, she started flirting around with this stupid loser in my class (which really helped my self esteem) and not too long after that they were always holding hands and kissing each other in the hallway. Of course being younger back then, I was very sexually frustrated by that, and was very angry and resentful towards her and didn't talk to her for the rest of the school year. Now come to the middle of the summer going into my senoir year, she just randomly calls me one night to tell me how much she hates him blah blah. As soon as she told me that I immediatley felt very relived not because she finally found out what a loser that kid was, but he treated her the way she treated me, and therefore I knew that karma was real.
After that I again breifly dated some dumb flirts, only to be back in the same situation I was before. Since high school I have not found anyone that I felt "connected" to. After being in a long distance relationship with someone on and off for a little over a year, I was convinced that there was no one out there for me. I've people say "there's someone out there for everyone" but I always had my doubts.
Since then I've deceieded to just wait it out and let that person come to you. If there really is someone out there for you, then she come to you in a place where you least except it to happen. I'm still waiting to...
Theres nobody out there for anybody. You have to go out and look for it. Waiting doesnt help, believe me.
Just remember that there are A LOT of fish in the sea Kuumuzu, and some of them are "blowfish" :lol:
Just remember that there are A LOT of fish in the sea Kuumuzu, and some of them are "blowfish" :lol:
Well, after much time thinking and getting on with my own business, I've finally let go.
Took bloody ages, but I got there in the end.
I believe that I may have found somebody new and remarkably wonderful though, which makes me very happy. ^_^
We met on my friends birthday last Saturday and I was entranced. It was a brief encounter but we've been talking online for a couple of days now. Already I feel ever so drawn to her...
She is aware of and reads Bizarre magazine, which in turn introduced her to Bianca Beauchamp, this was a surprise in conversation because I didn't expect her to know who she was. ^_^"
However, she has a love for shiny things... one of which I hope, from her knowledge at least, is latex.
I'm hoping that I'll be able to talk to her again in person if she goes out for her birthday. Not that msn isn't good enough right now... I'd just like to see her again. ^_^
Theres nobody out there for anybody. You have to go out and look for it. Waiting doesnt help, believe me.
Thats not a good way of looking at it, and with an attitude like that, I'm not surprised.
Well Darth does have a point. If you're not 'out there' then you won't meet anyone, and let's not forget women like to be approached rather than doing the approaching.
But sorry to hear about the situation that some of you guys are in. I've been there when I met 'the one', but it turned out the girl was a serial dater and had a new boyfriend a week later (we were only together for 5 months, but it was great). Nothing hits you harder than when you realise that your affections were never returned and the girl was just leading you on.
But give it some time and do your own thing for a while. There's no one person out there for you anymore than there is one car, you just have to test-drive a few until you've found the best one.
:wink:
Total bummer dude...
Hrmm, seems almost like my last post of POSITIVITY completely bypassed people and flew out of the forums window... 0__o"
Nothing hits you harder than when you realise that your affections were never returned and the girl was just leading you on.
Trust me man.....I've been there....
Hrmm, seems almost like my last post of POSITIVITY completely bypassed people and flew out of the forums window... 0__o"
Sorry dude. Just tryin' to be supportive to you, other posters and maybe those reading this who've been through the same.
I won't post anymore about it.
:(
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