Just told my gf about inflation fetishes, HOW DO I RECOVER?

I've told EVERY girl I've ever dated seriously (around 20 total) about the fetish, and the ONLY one that thought it was odd and didn't say anything about it for awhile ended up being TOTALLY INTO IT once she figured out how a little role play (or even just a few suggestive phrases) got me instantly hard. Once she becomes aware of the power it gives her over you sexually, she'll come around, just give her some time.

I was about to say, if you've not been dating very long, it was probably unwise to spill it. Of course, I probably don't have much room to speak here as I waited almost a year to tell my partner what I was into. :s

Then again, your situation here seems special!, as you had paraphernalia lying about.

You can't blame her for asking; if they're out in plain sight, and you're comfortable enough with it to have them out, then it looks like it's an important part of your life. If you had a lot of muscle car mags out on the coffee table, she'd probably ask about that too.

Don't overreact; it might take her a few days to process it. But I am surprised to hear that it came out so early. Even I waited a few months before discussing it, but I didn't have outfits. Even now that my wife knows all about it, I don't keep stuff out in the open; it's all in a container under the bed.

"Locking power"? What are you, a wizard?

she's good at getting in your head? if it was my relationship and she was doing stuff like that after a half week into it, i'd consider breaking up. but thats just me.

did she go through your closet or did she ask what was in there?

Don't blow a head-gasket right off the bat, mate. It is all about presentation. If you're cornered about something, you can either shrug it off as a joke, be serious and defend your fetish (my approach. Since I see nothing wrong with it, I'm open about it. I've met some very interesting people because of it), or you can just hide in a closet until the storm passes, but you just need to relax and chill about it. If it proves to be a "big deal" to her (as in, it's something she doesn't want to deal with), then she'll let you know she's uncomfortable and you shouldn't push the issue. But who knows, you might just have a closet-case inflationist waiting to be discovered. One can hope for you, can't they?

How does a closet with *four* locks have them all break? Did she break into the closet, or did you secretly want her to discover the goods?

And I must take issue with one other thing that was said:

I would not take this at face value, especially a week and a half into a dating relationship. Women send mixed signals all the time. "Yes baby, you can go drinking with your buddies instead of spending the evening with me." Like hell - your ass better be on the couch watching a chick flick with her or she will hold a grudge. "But I thought you said it was ok..." "Well, it's NOT ok."

My bandmates, some crazy fans that expressed the same interest as me (made me inflation art, too, weird stuff in some cases), people of the same lean (ie, fetish balls, bondage clubs, leather clubs) those types of people. Cool crowds, creeps, all sorts of people.

That's kind of messed up if you're going around telling people you have a strong relationship with they can go fuck themselves. Especially if you're the one going around telling them about your fetish, when perhaps they might not even want to know about what kind of things you are into sexually. I could see if they had asked for you to tell them about what you like to think about when having sex. But if you just come out of nowhere and are like, "I like having sex with inflatable people", and they don't like it and then you tell them to go fuck themselves. You can see how one might think that would be kind of lame.

I've never dared tell anyone yet. I've never been in that sort of trusting relationship with anyone special though. And I don't see why I would want to tell friends/family what my fetish is. Afterall I don't want to know what theres is if they have one. If it was someone I wanted to have fun with I'd think about telling them, but either I'd have to feel it was someone I trusted enough to tell. Or it was some sort of one night stand with someone kinky and I'd never have to see them again.

I just quietly use the same username here as elsewhere and if anyone Googles me under that name they will presumably find out. I don't actually mention it to anyone but i assume that anyone who's sufficiently interested in who i am will eventually discover it.

I think it's good not to treat your fetishes as some kind of creepy dirty thing you need to hide from people. It's a part of your sexuality so it's always a good plan to at least let your sexual partner know about it.

With me I'm not only into inflation but other freaky fetishes like vore, crushing, and other grotesque things. All of the girlfriends I've had over the past 12 years have been good with it though.

My last girlfriend (who I was together with for 6 years) was a little freaked out by it when I first told her about it and showed her some of the art I had done... eventually she got pretty into it though and although she didn't share the fetish of it... she was able to come around to appreciating the sexuality in it all.

So yeah, even if a significant other reacts hesitantly at first. If they really love you and are open to exploring your mutual sexualities... they're likely to take a warming to it. It's far worse to hide that kind of detail away because they're likely to find out eventually if you plan to really be intimate.