Female Inflationists, charge!!

well, sounds like we have a feminist, she seems to complain about anything pervy, well i wonder if she has a secret fetish?

any thoughts?

I started writing something in reply. Just a respectful riposte. But my computer is running exceedingly slowly. It was a case of: type sentence, go away for the 5 minutes it takes for the sentence to appear on the screen, type next sentence...

I gave in, it was infuriating me and I couldn't be bothered expending that much effort to try and debate with someone whose opinion I couldn't care less about.

But my point was that, aside from some of her other points (that all genders and sexualities are represented in our fetish, and that I personally have never seen an inflation pic on the dA home page in all my years), she makes the same mistake so many others do, and confuse a fetish with a judgement on how the female body should be. So many of those who criticise us do so because they think that we are a bunch of guys who think that unless a girl has unrealistically huge breasts, or is 30 stone, or whatever, she is unattractive. I was going to emphasise that it is the process of inflation that turns us on, the pressure, the up with a substance, not simply a girl with grossly exaggerated features.

I was also gonna add that all sexual gratification involves objectification. It is a sin (if it is that) that every man and woman alive is guilty of. Drawing an inflated woman to wank over is no more or less objectification than watching porn. There is nothing wrong with objectification if you have a sense of perspective and separate it from how you form an opinion of anyone of the appropriate gender.

Why would you give them more attention? Let them whine about things they don't like and move on.

Normally I leave this type of stuff alone, but I posted a rather detailed and tasteful (I thought) response on her page. I also challenged her to read my inflation fetish manifesto. I'm honestly curious to see what she says.

This is nothing to worry about. She said right from the bat that it's her opinion.

I don't think we should have to explain why we like what we like to anyone to be honest. We simply do it as a courtesy or to defend ourselves.

My 0.02 cents.

I cannot see any possible benefit to responding to anything she said. It's not like I want to "convince her to come over to the dark side" or something. In fact, I'd rather she just stay as far away from me as possible.

"If" she's a feminist (if she is, she's a bad one), she's the sort that gives my sort of feminist a bad name.

And there goes Slayer, proving that just because we share a fetish doesn't mean we have to like each other.

Screw you dude.

I wrote a response. So sue me.

tried, couldn't find a decent reason to argue, find a better stamp

As it happens, i posted something on the thread yesterday after waiting a few years.

Again another thing we need to give a rest

You're probably right, but you didn't have to be so mean about it.

Because we shouldn't have done anything in the first place. No matter what anyone here says to her and how nice they say it, it's not going to change her OPINION.

No, in general. I just don't see the point in trying to convince her about something she obviously disagrees with. Its not like she came here and starting going on about it. It is just a waste of time for all parties really. In the end she basically dismissed everything you all tried to explain did she not?
Now if she was on this site or posting things/harassing in one of our DA journals,pages and etc, then I could see the point in trying to talk with her. She wasn't though, so just move on and accept that people don't share the same interest with us.

My goal was not to change her mind, but rather to simply educate her about the fetish, and in that area I think I was successful. In the end she did not "dismiss everything I tried to explain" because her response was always that she still did not like it, which is fair.

If doubleintegral had a discussion, she understood your points, and politely disagreed, that's the end. There's no need to go back and, say, try to help her understand more; she has accepted the info and she has formed an opinion. Unless she actively says "What am I missing that might change my mind," walk away. Double has already done due diligence, as did Wren.

That said, I wanted to comment too but stopped myself. I did not agree with some of her leaps of logic and assumptions-as-fact. For instance, she defends her opinion as neither right nor wrong at the top, but also says "Do you think big boobs are better? They're not." Funny, that sounds pretty definitive, like you've made up MY mind with YOUR opinion. But that'd just be dismissed as argumentative nitpicking, and I realized it wouldn't help.

The one thing she said that got me very close to commenting: "Sex ought to be sensual & loving between partners."

For the record, my wife knows about my inflation fetish, understands it, and accepts it for what it is. She does not personally share it in the form of finding it a turn-on, but she does have fun with it because of my reaction to it. Our sex has been, is now, and continues to be sensual and loving...yet inflatably kinky. We're entering our third decade together.

Having an inflation kink about women is not the opposite of having respect for women. Maybe she didn't mean to make that connection, but that was my takeaway, and that assumption has not been my experience.

Ultimately, a fetish is impossible to ever fully explain to someone who simply does not share it. The fantasy stories you read and pervy images you see online may be an anonymous window to someone's soul, but you're still on the outside looking in.

I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with trying to persuade someone to have a different opinion about something, but after talking to this person a little it became obvious to me that she was a complete idiot. It's like talking to a brick wall - pointless.