about my interest in inflation. She's fairly openminded, and I thought she might not mind,but something happened recently that made me think she might.
We've been together for a fewmonths, but this is her (and my) first "serious" relationship so I don't want to scare her off. I sorta also don't want her to tell anyone else, I don't think she would but...you know...
Any advice?
Just tell her. Wait for a nice, quiet moment when you two are together and relaxed, and let her know. Be confident and calm, don't make it sound like you're telling her about the bodies you've buried under the house; make it sound like you're telling her about a fun hobby you have.
If she really loves you, even if she thinks it's weird, she won't freak out or leave you or tell anyone. And if she does, she's not the kind of girl you want to be with anyway.
Sharing this with someone is one of the best feelings in the world, and it's certainly better than keeping secrets from each other. I think people will surprise you with their capacity for weirdness.
I think you should tell her. For ages I wanted to tell my girl friend but I never manned up enough to do it. In the end she found my stories and asked me about it. She took it really well and actually encouraged me to write more, even stories about us. The fact is she loved me before she found out, but now because we share my secret it has given our relationship a little something extra.
I'm really happy she found out, I just wish I had been mature enough to tell her myself earlier.
I gotta be honest here I'm getting sick and tired of seeing these "guys I have a serious relationship now and I dont know what to do" threads that keep insistently popping up.
If you really are in a 'serious' relationship, then sharing bizarre facts between each other really shouldn't be a problem. Of course, I wouldn't go and just blurt it out to her, rather I would wait for her to start spilling the beans about her weird secrets, and then you could move in for the kill. Timing is everything, after all.
And in the worst case scenario if she freaks out and avoids talking to you, than you were probably better off without her.
Ok, I realize that this topic may seem whiny to others,and I tried to find a one like it but couldn't.
I do want to tell her ,I'm just waiting for the right moment. The only things that have made me wait is that it's hard right now to find a quiet "alone' spot (we're both in school, and don't see each other much), and the fear that she might tell others. I'm actually less worried about thesecond one; she's fairly shy, like me, and I don't think she would.
when i told my chick friend we were like best friends and now were dating because of it and i feel very lucky to but at first i just asked her if she had any weird fetishes then she didnt know wat a fetish was and i explained it to her then once she understood she said no and then i told her tht i had one and i eased her into the full story of it then she ignored me for like a week and then she said to me one day if she could come over and have a try of it and she did and she told me how amazing it feels so she then asked me out and she was my second gf but otherwise if u have trouble doing the same just show her some videos on youtube of like blowup boy and just tell her how u feel about it and if she dnt like it then off with her head lol just dump her b4 she dumps u
Many people here have told their significant others and it's worked out fine. Other people have told them and it didn't.
If it's important to you, if it's really a part of your life and your indentity, it's worth telling her. But only you can determine when and how.
You have our support, but we can't really give you instructions.
I would ask myself "Why do I feel the need to tell her about this?"