So this is actually really hard for me to ask. Every relationship I've been in has ended rather...well nasty when I bright up inflation. So I guess I'm wondering if theirs a place to meet people who are open in inflation in a relationship. This is really weird for me to ask but I need to get it off my chest
partner finding problems
Tue, 02/18/2014 - 20:37
#1
Hatsuharu
partner finding problems
Wed, 02/19/2014 - 00:13
#3
Start mentioning it before you actually date a person. Then you will know if she is open minded. You be surprised how open many people are, and when you tell them your
fetish, they will tell them yours. Most people have a fetish. Usually common for girls are Hentai fetish, and they are embarassed too to mention it.
Before I got married I dated many on internet who was willing to inflate for me in the suit I own.
But first tell them how you got the fetish, like how it triggered you in your childhood and then how it turned out to be a fetish. Some doesn't even know what a fetish is.
Wed, 02/19/2014 - 02:20
#4
Hatsuharu
Ive honestly tried both way's One time i waited and well she pretty much told me i was a freak and dumped me that was a 2 year relation ship down the drain....so eve r since then ive been straight up. has not really worked out all that well either...that's why i wish the inflation community was Bigger ( no pun intended) i mean dont get me wroong it's big but i still have trouble connecting with people. thats somthing i wan't to look into tho is even if i sound a girl to date online i'd almost do any thing i could tomake it work. in the end i love my fetish and and i really wan't it to be a part of my life and have fun with it. not hide it in the closet and be ashamed
Fri, 02/21/2014 - 03:26
#5
Seems you have some confident issues to work with. Relax, everything will be easier the older you get. When you are around 30, have a steady job, your own home, it's easier to get women ;)
Thu, 02/20/2014 - 22:51
#6
darth_clone19
I actually got a girl so into it she didnt want to see me one time because she knew shed reduce the whole thing to sex and inflation lol
Sat, 02/22/2014 - 23:58
#7
Beebobloon
It's just a confidence thing. You need to be confident in yourself before you can expect somebody else to be confident in you.
I was half-way through high school when I first told anybody and she was a really close friend. I'm pretty sure I linked her to a KinkyKing video of the blonde lady being inflated in a catsuit, and she thought it was cool and said she looked like an olive. Let's be honest, we can all have moments with this fetish where sexual intention becomes a massive part of it, but we have to simplify it sometimes.
It's a funny, enjoyable and harmless thing that makes you smile, hence my friends reaction. That's what you have to make it, too. If you come out to somebody and say "Can I inflate you in a blow-up suit and cream myself?" of course they're gonna go running. One thing I've found through introducing my missus to it alone is that you have to both be comfortable with every aspect of it. Luckily, my missus was already interested in a lot of BDSM aspects and inflation just fit right into it.
Anyway, my personal stories short, it's just about being confident and being able to read people. Body language is a dead giveaway. If you're telling somebody about your fetish and they're looking puzzled and slouching away from you instead of looking interested and making direct eye-contact with you while you're explaining it then you have to essentially abandon ship. Besides, if I was close to somebody in a relationship and they kicked me to the curb while I was opening up about something really personal, I wouldn't want to be with them for a long period of time anyway.
Sun, 02/23/2014 - 00:37
#8
I'm honestly in the same boat guy. My reception has been cold at best, both with people knowing it up front as well after the fact and I know how you feel: time wasted and connections seem really difficult, even more so over the internet, but I you have to look at it from their perspective as well. You're a stranger they met on the internet...at a fetish website. It doesn't really hold any sort of official credentials, does it? Not to say you are, but who knows what spiders lurk on this web? (Get it? :p wakka wakka) An awfully big risk for some all I'm saying, that some being a small amount at that.
I actually asked myself the question this morning, "Would I be better off, happier, if I didn't have this fetish?" I certainly feel like at this point, I'd be willing to try hypnotherapy or something of that effect. I don't feel like it's an unhealthy obsession, but like you said, it's a part of your life and you want to have fun with it, but what the hell is point if you don't have anyone to have fun with? Be one of these people that just roleplays all the time? Or even worse in my opinion, people who have a partner but would dare not tell them out of fear and sewing distrust, so they come here to roleplay?
That's where I am with this. I hope for your sake, you either got a better plan or an hefty amount of patience, because I'm nearly through here.
Sun, 02/23/2014 - 02:55
#9
blowup_boy
You're looking in the wrong place.
Being gay and having a partner into inflation is a huge plus (both into male inflation, plenty of that around). We think and feel exactly the same about it, it's amazing. However for stright guys wanting to find women. Being in the latex/bdsm world as well. I've seen a ton of women into the idea of inflatable latex, even done shows and such with them.
Trick is, if you want someone to enjoy your kink find someone with the same sort of "strange" mind as yourself.
Sites like fetlife offer everything under the sun when it comes to fetish and kinky. It's like fetish facebook as such. Plenty of woman on their!
I know it may not help, but just a suggestion. Regardless, you'll have to find a pretty twisted (in a good way) mind to be able to accept and play with your inflation fantasies.
How long did your relationships last before you brought up your kinks?