Hello everyone,
I've been in a stable relationship for almost 5 years and I want to bring up my fetish to her, specifically my blueberrification/body inflation fetish. How should I do that or should I never bring it up? Anyone else have experience with this? I want her to potentially wear a blueberry suit from sqeakly latex someday if it all works out but not sure how to go about it. Let me know what you all think. Thanks
For my partner, I decided to just one day sit down with them and just have a serious talk about our fetishes. They told me things that shocked me, I told them things that shocked them, but like Mosher said, there was already something between us and we went to for it. I've done things for them and they've done things for me. And in time we both grew to love each others fetishes. Again like Mosher said, don't s[ring it on her, ease her into it with a light-hearted talk.
Thank you both for the replies, it means a lot, I will put the info and advice to good use!!!
I'll be rooting for you man.
Yes i think mosherballoon told the right thing. dont be to shy, it will suprise you how easy people will response possitive. I told my ex-girlfriend about it, she was not really in to it but she respond in a great way.
When we talked about my/her fetish i just sayed the easy and shortest way "i always had fantasies about blowing up woman till they explode". First it was hard for here to imagne why i have this feelings, and how to please my feelings (because she was ofcorse not really able to inflate and explode). But after some days she suprised my how well she can relate to my fetish in daily live ( like she inhaled and let my feel her belly, and after a big meal she say specialy for me that she almost explode).
So go for it, but dont push yourself or your pathner. The best time to tell it is when you thing you 2 are both ready for it.
I'll second what everyone else has said, and I'll elaborate on the "don't force it on her" thing. You said that your hope is to one day have her wear a suit for you. That's great that you have desires and hopes, but make sure you remember that they are just hopes. She hasn't promised anything to you, so be prepared for the chance that she simply isn't up for it. My wife has been super supportive of some aspects of my fetishes, but completely turned off toward others. That's fine with me; I'm just super happy that she's as supportive as she is.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this: make sure your hopes don't impose any expectations on her. Just be honest and understanding, and if she is interested, you can work toward adding in ways to incorporate your fetish. Who knows? Maybe she'll discover that she enjoys it, too.
Good luck!
I'm defiantly taking it on the slow path, she's mentioned that she has fetishes and I've mentioned I have mine but she won't tell me what hers are and I won't tell her mine unless we share them with each other so I guess it's just a waiting game for now thank you all for the thoughtful messages and advice I'm putting it to good use
I brought it up as a joke at first. "Here, I'm gonna stick this balloon puffer in your mouth and blow you up!" sort of thing. It evolved into a running joke of me pretending to shove a hosepipe in his mouth and have him act like he was inflating. Eventually I told him it was kind of hot.
A kind of sneaky upside - he thinks it was him that gave me the fetish. Adorable, and not a misunderstanding I plan to correct any time soon.
Is it working as of yet? Any news? @OP
I personally just straight up told my girlfriend at the start of the relationship. I told her I had a fetish and I was a little embarrassed by it, she ask questions and I gave her answers. I never expected her to into it at least not straight away. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now and we have so much fun with this fetish. You've been together for 5 years so there's obviously a bound between you and your scared of breaking that bound. You don't have to tell her but if you do be honest and tell her a bit at a time. If she wants to be with you she will accept it in her own time, don't force the fetish on her. I'm not like a relationship guru by any means this is based on my experience, read this and any other replies and then use your own judgment. Hope all goes well.