Got a question for everyone. Has anybody actually met a person of the opposite sex that is also into inflation in "the real world"? It just seems like the odds are completely, astronomically against two inflation people of different to gender to actually meet in real life.
Does anyone have any experience, like have you ever had a boy/girl friend who was into inflation also? Is this even a possibility?
Partners
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 03:51
#1
Partners
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 04:21
#3
Does your wife know about your inflation fetish? Seems like that would make for slightly akward dinner conversation telling your wife and all that.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 05:11
#4
I don't get how some people get all the luck like that. I've tried to meet anyone else into inflation of the opposite sex and it's just a complete no-go. I know of one other girl that is into it and she is already going out with some dude, even though he only visits her once a month.
Most girls I've chatted to at all online are perfectly content with never experiencing any of their fantasies in real life. Which just perplexes me to no end.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 06:45
#5
hellview_666
I would say that my girlfriend had a closet case inflation interest that eventually came out a discussion before we even started dating. Now, after a year and a bit of being together, we joke about one day owning an inflatable suit of her own and acting out scenarios.
I used to actively roleplay before I met her, and only some of the girls would consider it should they have a method to return to normal size (that's if using a fantasy method - Wonka gum, magic, cartoonish weight gain, etc.)
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 13:12
#6
Yes, my wife knows about my fetish and she thinks its fun to play along too.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 16:08
#7
Met a girl in RL from online who loved guys bloating their bellies. She inflated me like a zepplin :D
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 17:52
#8
Personal, and mutual love must always come before a common fetish. Fetishes are a weak foundation for any relationship and all of my observations of such couples have yet to be contradicted. Take note of the guys here (including myself) who have met and stuck with a lovely lady who indulges in the inflation fantasy. They are our wives, spouses, and domestic partners first and foremost, this in itself is a foundation strong enough to often incorporate new mutual desires, such as inflation.
The foundation is love, not lust.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 18:08
#9
hellview_666
thegoryone wrote:
The foundation is love, not lust.
High five for love :)
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 19:54
#10
thegoryone wrote:
Personal, and mutual love must always come before a common fetish. Fetishes are a weak foundation for any relationship and all of my observations of such couples have yet to be contradicted. Take note of the guys here (including myself) who have met and stuck with a lovely lady who indulges in the inflation fantasy. They are our wives, spouses, and domestic partners first and foremost, this in itself is a foundation strong enough to often incorporate new mutual desires, such as inflation.The foundation is love, not lust.
Of course you could always go to the other extreme though and have a relationship where she doesn't enjoy or hates the fetish. That would really suck.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 21:02
#11
Believe it or not it can depend how the secret of your fetish comes out. Mood, place, setting, many things can determine how a girl will react, the reason I use girl is because I no how I am. Lets just face it and guys dont lie, if you never heard of this inflation/expansion fetish and your gf/wife just came out of her shell and told you and explained it to you would you really ditch that girl? Many guys are horn dogs and dont care what a girls into as long as they get what they want (remeber I said MANY not all). Guys - how you bring the secret out can dramatically change her reaction. Another thing is to try to find an open minded girl.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 22:02
#12
Yeah... I had a gf for like a year and a half but I never told her my secret. And it wasn't because I thought she'd freak or anything, but because I was fine with keeping it to myself. I mean she liked me for who I was, much to my disbelief, so if she found out about my kink, than I'm sure she would have accepted it as a part of me.
As thegoryone pointed out, a healthy relationship needs to built on mutual love and feelings, the fetish should always come later. Hell, I'll take this fetish to the grave if I have to.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 22:06
#13
Yes a strong relationship should be built first I agree.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 22:35
#14
darth_clone19
Women like it when they are in control and when they know they have you sweating. Thats probably how you are gonna be when she asks you about fantasies, so use it in your favor in order to have her have a positive reaction.
I think a woman you dont like as a partner but with whom you share the fetish with would make for an excellent f'ck buddy.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 23:01
#15
I like how everyone is talking about it like these girls are just everywhere rofl. As in girls that are open minded, will accept your fetish, and love you for who you are. I have yet to find a girl with ANY of those qualities, not to mention all three. I think I'm living in a strange alternate dimension full of liars and cheats.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 23:04
#16
Once in a bus, a woman that was sitting ahead of me told a man she had alongside that she liked when the Pink Panter inflates. She looked pretty cute in my opinion.
Sat, 05/01/2010 - 23:30
#17
I'm liking the response to my quiry. Thanks guys and gals ^_^
so it really sounds like finding a partner who is into inflation is a bit random and the best girl is one open minded enough to accept you with all the quarks. Wonder of I'll ever find one? Ah well.
Sun, 05/02/2010 - 00:19
#18
Inflate123
citizensix wrote:
I like how everyone is talking about it like these girls are just everywhere rofl. As in girls that are open minded, will accept your fetish, and love you for who you are. I have yet to find a girl with ANY of those qualities, not to mention all three. I think I'm living in a strange alternate dimension full of liars and cheats.
I dated a girl in college who I just found intriguing. It started as a friendship then moved into romance. And when it got far enough to get physical, I told her about my weird fetish. She laughed, because she thought it was a personality quirk. It wasn't something she shared but it wasn't something she shunned, because she said, "well, that's Dan."
We're married now. More than 10 years.
They're out there. But it's almost like you can't find them if you're looking for them. This should not be the tenet upon which your relationship is based.
Sun, 05/02/2010 - 02:10
#19
Congrats inflate123 :)
Sun, 05/02/2010 - 08:13
#20
Its like any fetish, the other person should be open minded since they are in a relationship in the first place. They should try and do things for you however small just because you like and you should do the same. Yes it is best if both people are into the same fetishs and the same ways, but a little give and take is healthy for any relationship to survive. Talking about pregnancy and certain movies are good ways to test since most people are familiar with them and its not too awkward to talk about. Another fun and safe topic is for around the holidays like thanksgiving where it is almost impossible to avoid.
Sun, 05/02/2010 - 17:11
#21
citizensix wrote:
I like how everyone is talking about it like these girls are just everywhere rofl. As in girls that are open minded, will accept your fetish, and love you for who you are. I have yet to find a girl with ANY of those qualities, not to mention all three. I think I'm living in a strange alternate dimension full of liars and cheats.
All anyone can say is keep your head up. For every nasty girl you come across, there's bound to be a decent woman around. You may even be overlooking one or two.
Hint: Girls with glasses, man... Statistically, they're pretty awesome overall. Just sayin'.
I find it kind of ironic that there are so many guys just on this forum who are into inflation with this general topic coming up, commenting on how hard it is to talk to a girl about this sort of thing.
..And here I am, a girl in the same sort of situation with my boyfriend. No, it's by no means a relationship builder, but it is something that I've held as very personal for awhile, and it's something I would like to be able to share with someone special. I honestly don't think I could pull of the in-person roleplay or anything like that, but at least the fetish I keep pretty secret RL would be out in the open, and I'd feel better about the whole 'talking in my sleep about my dreams' thing...:roll:.
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 06:44
#22
retrobane
Partners should at least try to be indulgent in fetishes. Hell, my first legitimate post here was asking more or less this same question because my partner was totally accepting of my kink when I told her, long and drawn out though that process was.
It's understandable that you'd find it difficult to talk to people that "actually matter" about your kink, regardless of gender. It's still a weird thing and a lot of people are told that fetishes are bizarre mental disorders and are to be avoided, which only adds to the vulnerability anything having to do with arousal already has. Sharing things to do with sex and fetishes is a time when you're more naked (metaphorically speaking) and vulnerable than you'll ever be, usually.
Oh, and just to add to the headcount, I'm a girl into inflation. With glasses! Tell it, Kadche. :I
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 09:32
#23
I told my wife because I could barely keep it a secret any longer. She didn't seem particularly bothered by it, whereas I was expecting an extreme response of love or hate either way.
She does occassionally try to indulge me, but because she doesn't quite 'get it' I usually take the lead and tell her, what's happening to her. It's really just talking dirty on my terms.
I of course have to reciprocate to her fantasies as well, but not many people inflate in a Jane Austen novel :wink:
Those of you looking for somebody into a similar fetish might be best looking at what else you're into. I met a girl who loved being helpless and in bondage, who found the idea of being given an enema, complete with huge belly a massive turn on. But to her it wasn't the inflation she found erotic, it was the loss of control.
It might be worth looking at why inflation turns you on, as I'm sure you'll find a lot more people who share those feelings who'll be willing to play along.
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 10:28
#24
Bob_king:
one of the main reasons I joined this site was so I could discover why we like what we like and I think I'm still looking for that answer. If anyone has any ideas as to where this fetish comes from I'm all ears.
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 15:10
#25
I've been with a girl for nearly three years now. When I first told her about all of this (sometime near the end of the first year we dated) she was ok with it. She actually said she was kind of glad because she is a moderately big girl and was relieved to find that I found that appealing.
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 15:35
#26
Dsmitz, my point was that people approach inflation in a variety of ways. For example some people like to be a willing inflatee, others like to be malevolent inflator.
If you find some common ground other than just the inflation, it should make your fetish easier for her to accommodate. i.e. If you want to be turned into a human beachball, finding a girl with a rubber fetish might be a step in the right direction, and not going out with one suffering from globophobia. ;)
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 16:20
#27
You know, on top of this, I have a fetish for girl's with glasses. Just sayin'
Tue, 05/04/2010 - 19:06
#28
Im really shy in person so I have not met anyone yet that in to inflation
Wed, 05/05/2010 - 05:43
#29
Inflate123
Bob and Dsmitz, I think a lot of it has to do with loss of control, or the threat of it.
Wed, 05/05/2010 - 05:46
#30
Yes, but where is everyone finding all of these partners into inflation or fetishes in general? Is there a secret club I don't know about? It seems to me pretty much everyone else on here has a partner that's at least somewhat into inflation...
Wed, 05/05/2010 - 23:57
#31
citizensix wrote:
Yes, but where is everyone finding all of these partners into inflation or fetishes in general? Is there a secret club I don't know about? It seems to me pretty much everyone else on here has a partner that's at least somewhat into inflation...
I guess it's because they were lucky enough to find a girlfriend/boyfriend and sit them down and tell them their secret, and then they were lucky enough to have them find it cool and get into it themselves.
That's the only explanation I have.
Sat, 05/08/2010 - 04:00
#32
retrobane wrote:
Oh, and just to add to the headcount, I'm a girl into inflation. With glasses! Tell it, Kadche. :I
Woo! :P With enough of us, we'll take over the world! :twisted:
Sat, 05/08/2010 - 04:22
#33
While I'm on here, I do have a question for some of you who have brought this up with significant others.
I've really been too shy to bring this up with any of my previous relationships, but I'm thinking I might want to share with the guy I'm with now, just so it's out in the open. I'm kind of concerned he'll find out anyway, as I apparently talk in my sleep pretty coherently about my dreams. I've been living with him for awhile now, too, so... If I don't tell him myself, it's going to eventually come out. Should I? Or should I just not worry about it? I don't think he's going to be bothered, really... I'm just a bit shy about the whole thing.
Sat, 05/08/2010 - 05:23
#34
retrobane
If you're living with him, I'd think that'd indicate enough commitment/trust/etc. to warrant telling him. Maybe try sparking a discussion about kinks/turn-ons and try trotting it out then.
To borrow a word of advice from an advice columnist, don't trot out your fetish as though it's some terrible burden that your partner's going to have to deal with. I know this is me basically talking out of my ass as that is almost what I did, but still! If you act like it's a good thing and source of many potential good times in bed, then that'll hopefully carry over to your boyfriend if he's rad.
Easier said than done, of course. When I told my partner, I had her play a guessing game with me. She eventually started treading toward "well, if you think it's bad, it must be, like, zoophilia?" territory. When that happened, trotting out "actually I just like the idea you inflating me" seemed like pretty good by comparison.
It's reasonable that you're shy about this, and I'm not going to tell you to magically overcome it, but it is doable! Good luck with it. :V
Tue, 01/04/2011 - 21:19
#35
I am a long time lurker and have finally gotten enough courage to post. I wanted to share my experiences with my wife in hopes of encouraging people to tell their significant others. My wife and I have been married for 3 years but we dated for about 7 years prior to our marriage. After about 4 years of dating I brought up the idea of sharing fantasies. To my embarrassment she did not really have anything to share, but as I brought up the conversation she knew I had one. I played it off for a while but after coaxing I shared my interest in violet's inflation. To my relief she was very supportive. She initially suggested we watch violet's inflation together. After watching the scene she said that she understood how the loss of control can be a turn on, much like bondage. She also said that she like the part with the belt popping. She said it reminded her as the feeling of an orgasm. Pressure building then a final release.
A few weeks later she suggested trying to recreate the fantasy during our bedroom activities. She came up with the idea of placing a large garbage bag between the outer fabric and the lining of a fully lined blue speedo swimsuit. She inflated herself with a hand pump. Watching her blow up for the first time was the most amazing experiences I have ever experienced. From that initial experiment she inflates for me about once per month. The role playing has evolved to include her chewing berry gum, increased dialogue, a red belt fastened with velcro that eventually pops of as she grows, an air pump in the other room (so it is virtually silent) controlled by a wireless switch, and we will be adding a blue button up shirt.
When you become comfortable with your significant other it is far better to share this fetish. While they may not share it, I think it is likely they will support it.
Wed, 01/05/2011 - 00:17
#36
Blue_Eyes
While I have never meet an actual inflationist in real life, I did have the "fetish talk" with my girlfriend. After explaining/showing examples she will do things/ send texts/ etc in order to participate in it with me. Se seems to get a kick out of it, so it works out well for the two of us.
Wed, 01/05/2011 - 02:44
#37
Fleetingsanity
Hell I would just settle for a woman with a decent chest right now lol. No I'm joking I don't think it's necessary for a woman to like your fetish would be cool but not a must or anything.
Wed, 01/05/2011 - 03:27
#38
Lateralus87 wrote:
Yeah... I had a gf for like a year and a half but I never told her my secret. And it wasn't because I thought she'd freak or anything, but because I was fine with keeping it to myself. I mean she liked me for who I was, much to my disbelief, so if she found out about my kink, than I'm sure she would have accepted it as a part of me.As thegoryone pointed out, a healthy relationship needs to built on mutual love and feelings, the fetish should always come later. Hell, I'll take this fetish to the grave if I have to.
I agree I think its alot harder for girls to tell lads as they can be alot more judge mental most of the times, and girls can be more open minded to things
I have met a total of two females in real life who are into inflation. The first was, regrettably, married to a douche bag. The second is single, and she likes it that way...and up until I met my wife and got married, she & I got together a number of times. Yay for me (note sarcasm)