Alright, I've been thinking of talking about this for a while now. Here we go.
Maybe some of you already know that most problems in anybody's life are related to emotions. Fear, Guilt, Anger, Frustration, Sadness. And these feelings are related to experiences we lived. Then, when we confront situations that somehow, both consciously or subconsciously, remind us the original experience, we suffer the negative emotion. These feelings can make us abandon some goal, or at least make it way harder to reach it. An example of a commont problem here in this community(or at least one mentioned somewhat often) is the act of trying to tell a girlfriend that you like inflation.
So here to my point. I want to present to you this miraculous technique called EFT. It's been used to heal several ex-servicemen of the Vietnam War from the psychological traumas they got. As far as I remember from what I read(a while ago), all of them(the ones that were thaught about this thechnique) were completely or almost completely healed. This to point how powerful it can be.
Now you may wonder, "if it is so incredible, why have I never heard of it?" Well, there's the chance that some of you had. But most people I asked didn't. Seems like the reason is partially that it isn't fully understood why it works, though it has some scientific backup. It has not been "officially" implemented. Also it is the kind of thing that sounds too good to be true, so many people discard it inmediately. No secondary effects, problems solved by the root. The process of this technique looks silly too.
The original developer of EFT had an internet page, but he closed it when retired. Here is the page that succeded it(that you can check later on): www.eftuniverse.com
For Spanish speakers, I used to check this one a lot before getting an EFT therapist: www.eftmx.com
Briefly, it works tapping some key points of your body with your fingers while you think and concentrate on what causes you the negative feeling.
But before doing so, give a number of intensity to how you feel about your problem right now. 0 is nothing, and 10 is intolerable.
Now you must tap the "karate point"(the part of the hand you would use to perform a karate hit) while you say at least three sentences that both include how you feel negatively and a self-acceptance. By instance a sentence can be "Even though I reproved the Math test, I love and accept myself". It can be the same phrase the three times.
This little routine disables a mechanism in your mind that sometimes prevents the following tapping from working.
Now you tap the following key points while still thinking in the problem(you can help yourself keep focused by talking about it while tapping):
-Side of the eyebrow that is near the nose(any of both eyebrows).
-Then go at the side of the eye that is far from the nose (any of both eyes).
-Now under the eye, at the cheekbone(any of both)
-Under the nose, over the lips
-Under the lips, at the chin
-Under the neck, at the start of any of both collarbones
-A fistful under any of both armpits
-Finally the karate point again(any of both, the same goes when you start).
Now chek from 0 to 10 the intensity of the feeling when you think about it. If it dropped, do another round of EFT to keep lowering it. If nothing happened, you must be more specific about what annoys you, or look for another "focus".
-Example of something that is too general and the result of EFT will be little to nothing: "I hate people with big muscles".
-Example of something more specifical:"I felt really humilliated in 8th grade when a bully with big muscles pulled down my pants in front of all the girls, and all of them laughted loud".
It sure is more effective when tackling each torturing memory infividually.
Well, experiment with it. Hope it works for you. Feel free to ask any doubts here.
If that doesn't work, there's always...