The Woes of the Inflation Fetish

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Phatpuukodot
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The Woes of the Inflation Fetish

 

  (I'm posting this depressing and emo-ish rant here because maybe there will be someone else who has gone through this same thing in their lives. Imam sorry for the long post)

 

 It never fails. I've had the fascination of body inflation long before I even knew it what it was called. 9 years now since ever since I came across this very site, I've known that this was my kink. Now a days everyone wants to know your dirties little fantasy, or what turns you on. Every friend I've talked to always thinks they have the weirdest thing that turns them on, of course until I tell them mine. Granted it take a bit of prying and few drinks in me to finally tell them, all the while my heart's pounding and I shake from a adrenaline rush. Soon as I do it's met with much negativity and quick alienation. I've should've learned my lesson 10 friends ago but I guess I never learn to keep my mouth shut.

 

 You would hope that people would be more open minded, but oh boy can you quickly change that when you say it drives me crazy thinking about a woman's body blowing up like a balloon getting bigger and rounder. Yes, I understand it's pretty goddamn weird, but Im surprised how many are so quick you can make someone feel uncomfortable just by saying it. 

 

 My most recent awkward moment came from a friend I've known for about 6 years now. She's an artist a damn good one too. She would share with me many of her kinks and questionable artwork she's done. I keeping a complete open mind got down with her on it. You each his own and whatever floats your boat and that sort of thing. I can see the sex appeal and a lot of them, I met hers with positively. She would also draw other people's fetish for her friends, which made me want to commission her, but never really wanted to speak up due to past events. Now, she shows me one of her most recent drawing and it's of a bbw lady she was doing for a boy she likes, a comment that I also liked bbws a lot (this is true), so I get the idea that maybe just maybe she could commission some inflation art...

 

 It takes awhile to ask her. At first she's thrilled that I even want to pay her for drawing, and even giving me the friend price of half the cost for full color. I on the other hand want her to pay the full price seeing as how this is odd request. Finally instead of asking her flat out for an inflation sketch I ask her want she would feel uncomfortable with, and sure even as she puts it. " I don't draw HUGE ladies like of astronomical proportions" that fell under my Inflation art. I told her yes I've wanted this, she had heard about it and made her super uncomfortable, in turn making me feel stupid, embarrassed, and ashamed of even asking her.

 

It concerns me mainly because of the way it made me feel and has been bothering me for days now. She won't even talk to me at all and I've tried to reach out, just with normal everyday things, and I get nothing back. I feel like jeez, does this fetish, this kink, this small community really offend people? Or why can't some people just be like 'meh' and move on. I know all the about the hate we get on Devart and other places that discover the body inflation community so it's always going to be there. It just hits a low blow when it's someone who is your friend. I should take my own advice and just keep my mouth shut, but there's always that small spark I'll find someone else who is into it.

 

So that's my story, please share your story about "coming out" to your friends, and how it went, I'd love to hear it.

 

Thank you all for reading, much love! <3

Pablote

I get the feeling that people think really negatively about it because it's something non-sexual they've seen in everyday life.  Now these are just some theories of mine.

Like if you've gone shopping with someone you know and later they tell you they have a shoe fetish and they think it's really sexy when someone puts shoes on.  Suddenly, you remember all the times you've put your shoes on in front of them, and how many times they've seen people put shoes on, and then assume that they're some exploitative secret pervert that's hiding their shoe fetish so they can watch unsuspecting people put shoes on and get off on it without telling them.

OR, seeing body inflation stuff somehow or other makes them uncomfortable about their own body image.  Like, they look at and pick up on some hidden symbolism that we don't see that they think is demeaning to men/women, or maybe it subconsciously reminds them of a part of themselves they hate.  Or something like that.

OR, they associate inflation with cartoons, and they associate cartoons with children, and so make the illogical leap associating inflation with pedophilia, since it's not inherently sexual, it wasn't made to be, and children watch it, and we're perverting it with our sexual lust.  That one is a bit of a stretch, but these are just theories of mine, and I'm not a psychologist, so I really couldn't tell you.

Phatpuukodot
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 I would have to agree with you on the theory of their own body image. In women especially, so much in there lives have been told that the smaller and thinner you are the better. The very idea of getting bigger is just horrifying to a woman. Standard of beauty ruins everything once again.

CorpulentArtifice
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The only person I ever told about my inflation fetish (irl, that is) was my former boyfriend. He and I had previously discussed some of the things we were into, and I'd told him that there were a few things I wasn't ready to reveal to him, but might like to open up about later; he said that this was okay and I should take my time.

It started bugging me, though, because I really wanted him to know everything about me and I felt weird keeping it from him, but I was also afraid of how he'd react. So after a few days, I got him on Skype so I could talk to him about it, but I was so nervous I stalled a lot and had trouble bringing myself to say anything (to the extent that he said if I wasn't ready, I didn't have to tell him).

Finally I came out with it (in a very roundabout fashion), and he was actually quite okay with it. He even asked what he could do to incorporate my fantasies into our time together. I'm not sure how I thought he'd react, but I guess I wasn't expecting him to be so okay with it.

I got paranoid again after we split up that he might tell someone, but he assured me that what I told him would remain confidential. (We never did get to experiment with my expansion kinks, though. Pity. xP )

My purpose in telling that story is to point out that not all "civilians" are super averse to the body inflation fetish; sure, plenty will think it's weird, but if they're worth their salt, they won't judge you for it. I'm sorry you had that experience with your friends, and hopefully they'll come around sooner or later and realize it's not a big deal.

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Pablote

Funny, I refer to those outside the fetish as "muggles".

bigair38
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For my part, I discovered the belly inflation alone, when I was a young boy. I quickly understood how to begin to practice. I always thought that I was crazy and alone in the world, until I learned that there are other people like me (thank you internet). Unfortunately, today I'm 33 and I have never succeeded to talk about it with someone... I've always lived this attraction as a shame and I ignored it every time I was in a relationship with a woman.
I begin to think that it can not be shared physically. Besides, if I found a woman with whom sharing is possible, I do not even know how to do it :p lol I think that talking would be a big step forward!
Excuse me for my broken English ... I hope you understand me anyway.

My forum for french community: http://bellyinflationfr.probb.fr (with some tutoriels for beginers)

carnatic

Personally I don't feel any need for anyone else to know about my sexual kinks. I understand that people don't want to feel like they have to creep about hiding things, but this, I'm perfectly comfortable hiding. There's no reason at all I can think of for anyone else to know (well I am single I guess), not just because I would feel embarrassed to tell anyone, but also because it's simply not relevant to anyone else. I would even go so far as to say the fetish might go away if I woke up tomorrow in a world where everyone was open about their little kinks and nobody cared. There's something sexy about having a little source of pleasure nobody else knows about.

Pablote

My girlfriend of about 8 years now knows about my fetish.  When we started getting more serious towards the end of high school, I told her that I had a really bizarre fetish, but I wasn't comfortable sharing it with her.  She said she was okay with that.  She would bring it up every so often after that, but every time  I would turtle up and tell her I really wasn't comfortable sharing.  Despite my insistence that it wasn't anything horrible, I was getting increasingly paranoid that the longer I didn't tell her, the more she would think I didn't trust her, or the more she would believe that it actually was something horrible, so this fetish was becoming more and more of a burden.

One day, we were laying together in my car, and she brought it up, and I said no again.  She got really quiet, and then, in this really innocent voice, she asks if it was "like that blueberry part with Violet in Willy Wonka?  You wanna see me turn into a blueberry?".  According to her, the look of mortal terror on my face was priceless.  To this day, I have no fucking clue how she was able to figure it out.

AmericanMuscle
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Women have powers man, very creepy powers. Honestly I have joked with it with a few people and everytime it is seen exactly as such. So no I have not told a living soul, sure one day I shall, but in the mean time I think I'll keep it hidden. I'm not sure if anyone has brought it up but in the past particular groups have used symbols as a way of finding one another. The most famous being the jesus fish from Europe, what I'm getting at is perhaps as a community we should make something similar. That way if someone is ever out at a bar or such and sees the symbol, we could know without having to ask or reveal. Just a thought

squally

the P balloon perhaps?

thats the only thing i can think of that cant be used in any other way at least.

 

dam lol

AmericanMuscle
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well whose to say we merely can't make one up, devise something of our own

Fairia
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Sorry about the double post XX.

Fairia
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It was mentioned on my end casually from others, any few friends, an artist group and one guy currently who has his own interest in BBW's. I've done my inflation and fat art in public and not many seem to blink an eye but sometimes wonder. So far for the most part, they liked what I drew which I usually question as I'm not the most confident in my work. Seems that the rarity is others who get clearly weirded out by it.

blueberry-field...

I had never told anyone about my inflation/blueberry fetish, until I told my girlfriend of three years. I was too afriad to bring it up early in our relationship, and I didn't start to open up about it until we had already been dating for about two years and were already living to together. 

I was so nervous I started telling her in bits and pieces but after a couple days, I finally told her. I'll always remember her repeating, "you want me to blow up like a blueberry?". I was worried for a second, but then I realized it was the best decision I could have made. She started incorporating it into the bedroom completely on her own. She started saying things like "I feel funny" or "I'm blowing up...like a blueberry". 

Now she actually really enjoys incorporating it into our sex life, she'll even buy blueberry flavored gum sometimes for role play, or when she wants to let me know she's in the mood she'll tell me she's got a golden ticket or ask me to take her on a factory tour. She also likes to find subtle ways to tease me in public by ordering things with blueberries, while out with friends. 

My point is that while I'd never tell any of my friends, when you find someone you care about and they care about you, people can surprise you with how accepting they can be. So hang in there. This site is great because it shows us that we're not alone. Your sexual desires are yours, there is nothing wrong with keeping them to yourself, but it can also be a huge relief to let someone special in on your dirty little secret. 

Pablote

Gah, my girlfriend does that too!  I think she's more fascinated and amused by the fact that she figuratively has a button that she can discreetly push that will instantly turn me on, and likes to use it to tease me in public.

I agree, I think that you just need to wait until you're in a relationship with someone that you love wholly, virtues and vices and all.  Hang in there, OP!

darth_clone19
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thats kinda awesome but embarrasing at the same time lol

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darth_clone19
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Ive never had a negative experience telling this fetish to a woman. I think it comes down to earning your significant other's trust first. If he/she trusts you and likes you, they'll take it well.

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Phatpuukodot
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Lol, not going to lie, mad jealous that you guys have girlfriends that are into it. That's the dream never let them go guys. Of course the real dream would be to meet a girl here with the same desires, but I'm sure thats the case for all of us, right guys?

doctorbo
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I can't say I would be thrilled to have a gf that much into it as me - remind me of an obsessive gf I had (yet pretty cute and spunky) who was SO much into action figure and geek stuff I was getting tired of my little passion I had mostly for myself for a while -a little is fun, but too much can be boresome. Like other have pointed, it's fun to have a secret garden.

I also think the stigma against inflation come from some woman's perception toward her own body. I had a gf who, once I told her, used it to tease me and turn me on. She basically was puffing her belly - which was already quite large since she was a bona fide BBW - and telling me some kinky line to go along. She loved it at first since she found that "turn-on button" to get me up, but after a while she got real uneased with it, as she felt it cornered her as the fat girl and make her feel fat.

My current gf know of it, doesn't really undertsand it but don't judge me - she find it weird and kinda funny yet harmless. I have to show some drawing I did to help her understand a bit more I guess; she often missread that I like big woman - which I do - but I mostly like them because I imagine they inflated their way to such a size, which is indeed a bit trickier to get (but I know you guy see my point). Since she's far from being big she get a bit ankward thinking she's not my type - which is far from being so even if I reasure her. Again, her perception toward her own body come in the way...

But I love her and don't mind she don't get into it - after all most inflation scenario I like are impossible in real life, so drawing, stories and morph would be the way to live them anyway ;)

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