I don't know if I'm posting in right place so my apologies if not . My husband has breast expansion fetish and Told me last night he had wanted to ask me to use water balloons for role play but to embarrassed to talk with me about it :( my question is since he's uncomfortable talking about I don't think he could explain to me what he wants exactly and I don't know anything about it. I have had very hard time finding anything about it I already have 30 f's so don't know how it would work to put balloons in my bra do I wear a shirt so its more realistic I don't think he's in to popping I just want to make him happy and satisfied but don't have a clue where to start and it's very hard for him to talk about he feels like he's weird and I know its different but I want to make him comfortable with his likes and wants . Thank you for any help if it masters his fav is Kristi lovett so my F's look like A's next to that :(
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Well, if you have some money for stuff, they have things like inflatable suits that are specific to inflatable breasts, meaning that you can wear whatever on top and inflate the breasts however much you want. (I'll post an example below, although I havent purchased one myself)
http://www.aliexpress.com/item/Fashionable-breast-inflatable-latex-anzug-catsuits/1792490570.html
http://www.aliexpress.com/item/Latex-rubber-catsuit-bodysuit-sexy-handmade-pure-natural-latex-tights-leotard-inflatable-bust/935264669.html
I'm afraid I don't know much about improvised stuff; hopefully others can help you out more with that stuff.
Best of luck!
Thanks for the tips that's where I'm not sure If it's the process for him or end result I'm just going to have to drag it out of him I suppose:) it's making me feel weird not knowing and don't want to embarrass myself to
Well, I think it's important to have that mutual trust between you too, and remember that fetishes aren't generally chosen, nor can you usually get rid of them. I think you should try to get him to talk about it and reasure that it isn't something to be embarrased about; too many people are for something completely common and natural.
Exactly and we have fought about it because I know how big of a part of his life this is and he's so ashamed and secretive that is ruining our intimacy I love him no matter and hate that he can't feel comfortable talking about it so I'm learning anything I can about it so I can talk to him . :)
I just wanted to say, there should be more people like you out there. I can't tell you how many stories I've heard of someone whose partner was so "shocked" and "grossed out" that they ended the relationship. Men, women, gay, straight, it doesn't seem to matter; some people just can't seem to deal with fetishes in general. All it takes is a little mutual understanding. There'd be a lot more of that if people would just sit down, listen, and learn. Just letting him know you've been trying to understand should make him feel many times better about talking about it with you. Thank you for keeping an open mind.
:) people generally suck I have my own thing too, everyone does who is anyone to judge a persons likes and dislikes. I just want to be a part of it you can't have real intimacy while judging or in his case hiding but I can understand the hiding when he feels like he's different from everyone else that's a lot to carry around everyday. There's so little info out there about B.E. and I'll about im nervous about looking stupid to him trying it but fuk it needs my husband and I'll try anything to make him happy
Sorry for citing myself.
Your loved one needs a good psychologist. Or you can give him a good book as a present. Or play psychologist yourself if you feel you're pro.
That should help, at least it helped me years back.
Why would he need a psychologist he has a fetish not an illness . why would you be on here if that's your view of fetishes and have been "cured". I'm not trying to be rude but this makes no sense
I agree; in fact I think if you can successfully indulge in his fetish I think it can be quite a beautiful thing. The only ones who are "rude" are those who expect people to just flip a fetish off like a light switch...it just doesn't work that way.
I think he means phsycologist in someone who can help him not be uncomfortable with who he is, not like a phycologist for "insane" people.
Hello! Here is a thread in another forum that may prove useful in terms of props.
http://forum.bearchive.com/index.php/topic,9984828.0.html
Good luck!
I get that he is uncomfortable talking about it and this is going to take time, but you and him need to talk through what he likes and dislikes. You two are married and so long as it doesn't demean or cause pain/trauma...you should want to work to please one another in the bedroom. It might take time, but finding out what turns each other on and how to do that (in this case breast expansion. Btw, use balloons) is part of the discovery. He is uncomfortable because there is probably shame there. Encourage him to share what he likes by either sharing your turn ons in great detail or telling him that you aren't going anywhere and want to support him. Seriously, there is a lot of shame within fetishes because we are taught that we need to keep it a secret. Revealing exactly what turns us on is becoming super vulnerable. Does that make sense?
if I can offer a suggestion though. Resist the urge to have him show you what he likes by going to porn. Porn will not aid in you trying to please his fetish. Does he write? Have him write a story about you expanding. Does he draw? Same thing. What you are doing for him shows your love for him, and remember sex is fun.
You're husband has the right idea on props, but water balloons are flimsy and like to burst. Try with simple air balloons in a large dark top (lighter colors or white will reveal the balloons, better for immersion) and dialogue is key! Sure you can see them grow, but explaining they feel as they grow is a big plus. Encourage him to take part, the corny 'I need some help to stimulate them' routine should entice him to interact. As far as discussion goes, just approach him first, he obviously has your feelings in mind and isn't sure what you feel about his kink. If you are supportive about, it is as easy just asking if he wants to try out the role playing. You're an awesome lady not to shame him on his kink. Hope this helps :3