Hey everyone. I was wondering if anyone here has ever opened up about their fetish to family members or friends before and has any good advice about going about it? I am dead set about ordering an inflatable suit from squeaklatex but I know eventually my parents would have to find about it. The issue isn't money related at all, I'm just super embarassed even thinking about telling them about it. Please let me know if you have any advice!
Advice on how to "come out" about fetish?
Mon, 03/30/2015 - 23:12
#1
Advice on how to "come out" about fetish?
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 04:51
#3
Is there no way at all to keep it hidden from them? Like you could wait until you've move out of your parents' house before ordering it. It doesn't sound like you really want to tell anything about your fetish and you'd have something in common with the vast majority of people who use this site if that's the case.
After all it's not like being gay that has effects on your life beyond mere sexuality, where coming out allows you to stop lying about the kinds of relationships you have and live your life normally; so there is no real reason for anyone to come out about it, except in your case if you really want to order a suit and can't wait until it would be a bit easier for you to do so. Your fetish is purely a sexual thing, and therefore 'coming out' as it were is purely you telling people about your sexuality, very few people really want to do that unless with someone who they share a sexual relationship of some description with (or who shares their kink). You'd have to answer a whole load of uncomfortable questions if you did this.
There are a small number of people on here who have been more open they say, with people they know in real life who they aren't in a sexual relationship with (friends, family etc.), but I think you'll find that in their case they told people because they really wanted to. They may come on here with advice about how they did it but they probably felt no such hangups about doing so and whether you want to follow that will be a tough decision if deep down you don't want to have to do this.
So yeah, unless you come to the conclusion that you actually want to do this, and have no hangups at all, I would just wait until you can order a suit without attracting suspicion.
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 05:32
#4
Trust me, if I never had to open up about this I wouldn't. The only reason I feel I have to tell them is because I am in college right now and therefore will be moving in and out repeatedly for a few more years. It would be mighty hard to keep a giant latex suit hidden from my family for awhile. I'm not quite sure yet the different manners in which it can be stored and whatnot. And yes I could wait until I move out of the house but that would be in another 2 years and I'm really keen on getting the suit now. I do think it would be wiser to wait until I get my own place I suppose. Anyway, thanks for the advice everyone!
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 06:02
#5
Personally I would wait until it won't be a problem, but that's because I would be mortified at the thought of anyone knowing about my fetish. It seems you're the same though. You never know, you might find that a suit packs up smaller than you thought, I can imagine it being difficult though, I had some difficulty with my collection of hand-drawings when I was at university. I kept them all in a locked briefcase because I figured the topic of 'what's in the briefcase' would never come up, and it didn't.
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 06:50
#6
Another Canadian Guy
Here is what I suggest: (this is what I did)
First of all, ask them if they saw the original Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, and if so ask them about the blueberry scene. Then, show them the blueberry suit (I did this with my mom, and she absolutely loved it, just not the price of it). From there, go on to explain that the suits are double layered, and wearing one is like getting a full body air massage. You can also point out that there were studies done on people for devices such as the inflatable suits that apply constant pressure to adults that are proven to help them relax. That is basically what I did, so when my inflatable suit came in (I got the bag style one), mom actually loved it to a bit of my surprise (I'll explain below why she was so accepting). She was very accepting of it, and helped inflate it, giggling the whole time. She still helps me deflate the suit when I am in it until I can find an improvised method for deflating it (the suit has a sort of automatic seal where it inflates by my ankles, so I cant reach it myself).
That was my course of action, so it depends how your parents are. She was very glad I was open about it, and she said the suit made sense (I said how much I loved it and how relaxing it was) because as a baby I was always snuggled and kept close to my mom. The constant pressure around my body and the latex basically melting onto my skin must remind my brain of being an infant and being close to my mom, so subconsciously I am comforted and have this feeling of well being, and my mom guessed that too. The great part about all of this is that nobody in real life knows I have a fetish towards it; they just think its an awesome idea!
I will say in the end, you will need something that can both inflate and deflate when you plug it in, otherwise you'll probably be stuck in your suit!
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 08:20
#7
That is a very clever idea except that it would never work on my parents :( But thank you very much for taking the time to offer me some good advice!
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 12:37
#8
BalloonInflator
I'm not as experienced as ACG, but his FAQ has really helped me a lot. I too preferred air over water for the longest time, probably for the same reasons as you. Now, thanks to his advice, I like water more. One of these days, I'm going to find out if a combination of the two is better, or even possible without hurting myself.
So welcome, and happy inflating!
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 13:09
#9
I think he's purely talking about suit inflation.
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 13:16
#10
BalloonInflator
That was supposed to be in a different thread, lol.
Stupid me, can't tell my tabs apart.
Ignore me.
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 18:27
#11
I completely agree with carnatic. Do not tell people about this. You should really, really wait on getting a suit.
If you absolutely can't just wait, maybe just get a girlfriend who's alright with this, or tell your current partner if you have one. Keep the suit at their house?
If you're just telling your family about this to enable you to get a latex suit, I think you're making a mistake. You can't undo this, and they might not react positively to you announcing your purchase of a very expensive sex toy that you plan to use in their home.
Tue, 03/31/2015 - 18:42
#12
BalloonInflator
Honestly, I don't think there's any reason to tell your parents about it either. You partner is someone you share sex with anyway, but there are right reasons and wrong reasons to tell them too.
You need to ask yourself a few questions when determining whether or not to tell someone.
1. What do I gain from telling them?
2. Will keeping it secret hurt them in any way?
3. Will either decision hurt me in any way?
All in all, telling them is your own business, but parents tend to be less understanding than significant others when it comes to fetishes. Best of luck either way.
Wed, 04/01/2015 - 08:14
#13
Maybe it's because I'm very introverted but I never felt like I "had to tell" anyone about my fetishes. I always thought that half the fun of having a fetish was keeping it as a weird secret from everyone, just something for me to enjoy in my alone time, but that's just me.
I know you're really concerned about blowing your cover by ordering a suit and always having to worry about hiding it, but from you said it really sounds like it's not worth the drama right now. I think you can tough it out and wait until after you're done with school and gainfully employed and living on your own.
You really don't need to tell your family and friends about the weird stuff you're into, because honestly it's not their buisness to know what makes you moist.
That being said tho, I think that you should never hide your fantasies from your significant other, no matter how weird and absurd you think your fetish is. They will most certainly understand that it's something you're into and they may even find it to be a cute/clever/creative kink to have.
I've never been in a committed relationship long enough for me to disclose my bizarre passions sadly, but I have told several girls in the past about my more borderline kinks and they all thought it was cute and even obliged in it for me. I think you'll be surprised that your partner will be very accommodating to make you happy, as you would for them.
Wed, 04/01/2015 - 10:51
#14
Thanks for the kind words. And thanks to everyone else for that matter. I now totally realize it would be best to just wait it out. What you guys need to realize tho (I'm assuming most of you are into female inflation) is that it's frustrating to have to wait for any sort of male content with the fetish since it is so scarce as it is. If I were into girls, I wouldn't even buy the suit and instead just look at all the stuff that's already out there.
Wed, 04/01/2015 - 11:56
#15
BalloonInflator
Male inflation is scarce? I'm pretty sure more than half the videos on YouTube and Dailymotion are all men. I've found the exact opposite to be true. Perhaps we need to trade Internets...
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 01:05
#16
I think it depends what you're looking for. If you're looking for stories and drawings or morphs of the fetish then you would find that most content features women as the inflatee. If you're looking for videos and photos of people practicing real life inflation or wearing suits, or inflation in mainstream media, then most content does see to feature men as the inflatee.
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 09:45
#17
BalloonInflator
You make a good point. I really didn't think about that. My apologies.
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 09:51
#18
BalloonInflator
I understand your frustration, but statistically speaking you can't be the only one in your situation. Luckilly for you, you're starting college soon, which means you're going to be meeting a ton of new people. Some will stick with you forever, others will come and go. Probably most important is you're very likely to run into people just like you. So, it's quite possible you won't be waiting too long. Just hang in there, and keep looking forward.
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 22:55
#19
Actually I'm about to finish my second year in college. Ideally, I'd wait until after senior year although then I might go to graduate school which would impose the same obstacles all over again...
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 13:32
#20
tigerbostonlake
Why the flying fuck do people feel the need to "come out" to friends and family about fetishes? I mean seriously: keep it between you and sexual partners.
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 22:56
#21
I already said why. It would be extremely hard to hide a huge inflatable suit from my family without them eventually finding out about it.
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 13:54
#22
CorpulentArtifice
I can relate on both the living at home/need for privacy level, as well as on the lack of male content level. One of the main reasons why I don't have a suit is simply because I don't want to use it at home - I've made the decision not to tell my family about my fetish, so I can only engage in things that I can keep private. ((I also can't afford one, though I had a chance to get one some time ago and totally blew it.))
However, even without a suit, there are a lot of workarounds to emulate it, like padding yourself with clothing, cushions, or even inflatable beach balls or sturdy balloons to emulate inflation. I actually even figured out how to emulate water inflation with just a garbage bag (layered under clothes) and a hose, as well. I dunno how any of these methods compare to an inflatable suit, since I myself have never owned one, but it's something to tide you over until you have the privacy to invest in one.
As for the frustration with waiting for male content, there are a couple of things you could do. One is to generate content yourself - one of the reasons why I'm trying (and failing) to fight my writer's block to get back into writing is simply to make sure there is more male content out there. And actually, I never posted my very first stories anywhere, and very few of my drawings - I just wrote/drew them for my own entertainment, and it's good practice besides.
Another thing you could do is to get into roleplaying with other male inflation fans. Personally, I find it's a really neat, interactive outlet for the fetish that doesn't require outside materials. Plus you get to enjoy it with your RP partner, which can make it a bit better.
So, definitely look forward to getting the suit, but if it's not something you can do at home right now, there are other things you can do to explore/enjoy your fetish without one. :]
Thu, 04/02/2015 - 23:01
#23
Oh hey I remember you from deviantart and also youtube! I should probably specify that if I ordered the suit, it would remain in my dorm room in which case I obviously wouldn't have to hide it from anyone other than my roommate whom I honestly don't care if they found out either way. The problem would be summer when I return home. Unless I can find someone to hold the suit for me for a few months, I'd be mighty out of luck...
I really don't see the need to come out to "friends and family" about your fetishes. A boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, or husband would make sense since it would be a way to make sex more pleasurable.
But your friends and family? There is zero reason to tell them other then wanting attention.
I'm mean.